Thursday, 23 July 2009

Weddings

For the first time in my life I have been giving the idea of "marriage" some thought. Obviously it is a patriarchal conspiracy to keep property in the male line but having stumbled across my truelove at 40 I have to say I am a little bit tempted. It is said that Marriage is the first step towards Divorce but sometimes you just want to be with someone forever.

This made me laugh.

39 comments:

Anonymous said...

"...a patriarchal conspiracy to keep property in the male line..."

You what?

Have you any idea at all of how the divorce courts work and what they do?

Elby the Beserk said...

@Anon.

Joke, eh?

hatfield girl said...

Congratulations from us both Elby! And every wish and joy to you Lilith.

lilith said...

Anon, marriage these days has little to recommend it to the young man (unless he wants to live in a bedsit estranged from his children.) If I had a son I would advise against it. As it is, Elby is old and impecunious, having been through the whole process already, and by marrying him I would not only be saving him from pushing his Grateful Dead collection around the streets in a shopping trolley but also his adult children from wiping the dribble from his chin in years to come...

lilith said...

Thank you HG! Your congrats are the first, no specific proposal having been made or accepted, but we have ruminated thereon and I occasionally think such things as "no corset, no church, no disco".

Elby the Beserk said...

Thank you, HG!


I've only just got to getting divorced from my ex - Septemberish all being well; our relations are good, as are mine also with her family - her brother and his family the other side of Bristol (he I have known since he was 18, and his wife used to babysit our kids when we all lived in Oxford still) and her late mum, a jewel, who lived in Bath till her death earlier this year, at 91.

So there's the divorce. The there's also my darling daughter, getting married in September, and my darling middle boy who within the space of about three weeks told me too was getting married, and then that I was to be a grandfather.

So I think I should keep out of the spotlight for the moment; but this has crept up on us slowly from behind, I guess. It feels just right :-)

Calfy said...

"this has crept up on us slowly from behind"
I don't believe it for a moment, mum's been scheming for years :-P
So long as I don't have to change my surname to Beserk..

rvi said...

Calfy: Marriage will bugger up the family finances and tax allowances, which is why many happy couples prefer to remain singles. Your correct response should have been something to the effect about you needing to take steps to ensure your pocket money was not likely to be halved...

lilith said...

Calfy's pocket money RVI? Ha! Hahahaha! That's where I have been going wrong....I should have given her pocket money.

Kevin said...

My family has been on me for years to get married. I can always come up with an excuse.

electro-kevin said...

Go for it !

electro-kevin said...

You can get the kid baptised at the same ceremony nowadays too !

electro-kevin said...

Whaddya say, Calfy ???

Scrobs... said...

Aaaah Lils!

This is indeed fantastic news!

It will undoubtedly bring tears to many a bloggers' eyes to see you in the aisle with the Famous Mr Serk!

Also, I just loved that clip and will be sending it to Yd and ED!

ood day this already!

Pip said...

Blimey, that's different!

Elby you have to propose immediately and in the most romantic fashion - we need details! If you do not at least ask this gorgeous woman then, Mr Beserk, you will have to blog under a pseudonym and will end up alone in a bedsit starved and emaciated into decrepitude. Or have you got a ring already, Lils? I got a fab ring. Take my advice: if you're sure he's the one you want then be happy with a plastic ring out of a lucky bag and drag the bugger up the aisle.

Best wishes to you both xx

lilith said...

Kev, Calfy got herself baptised at 7 as she felt the need of godparents.

Scrobs :-) It is such a happy video. What it should be about.

Pip, he has ideas. I must prepare to be surprised.

lilith said...

Pip, jewellery is for losing and fretting over. I have lost the nicest pieces I ever bought myself. Still have a pearl the Queen of Raratonga gave my Gran though...:-)

lilith said...

Er, that should be Rarotonga

Calfy said...

In fact it was because my classmates (Year 2) told me I would go to hell unless I got christened, I didn't quite believe them but thought I'd be better off safe than sorry

lilith said...

Yes, Calfy, cover your bases. I am sorry to hear it. I got frightened by a scary Presbyterian when I was 9 and did the same thing. Vaccinate yourself against Hell.

Elby The Beserk said...

Pip,

All in good time and in the right place; as noted, too much going on with my "kids" at the mo for me to take any of the spotlight off them. It was at the tender age of 52 that I realised I had run into the love of my life, so maybe I'm just a slow starter? :-)

Elby The Beserk said...

And may I present my stepdaughter, Ms. Calfy Beserk.

Sounds good to me, m'dear!

Calfy on her way to France as I write, for a fortnight's intensive language school. We had just got her back from her stint as a governess in the Frozen North, and now she's off again.

Nick Drew said...

a bit late to the party here but congrats to all concerned! an excellent start to the week

call me ishmael said...

Bon voyage.

lilith said...

Nick and Mr Smith, thank you!

Scrobs... said...

...do anything special over the weekend you guys?

idle said...

Jeeesus. A chap wanders off to the Riviera for a spot of Cotes de Provences and some carpaccio de thon, and comes back to find that Cupid has been firing shots all over the shop like some mad Pashtun with an AK47.

Thank heavens Calfy and I were there in Batcombe at Easter to stop you racing off through the meadow, tearing at one anothers' clothes, to celebrate a warm spring day as young lovers do.

I gather nothing has actually happened, as yet. But congrats when it does. He seemed a sound enough chap to me.

I agree with No Disco. Are you going to book that band for the wedding instead of your funeral?

lilith said...

Scrobs I did a course in Further Quackery for Hippies, which took all weekend. In between I wondered if Calfy had made it to France. Elby slaved in the kitchen and under stairs cupboard.

lilith said...

Idle :-) I am having Neil Young play at the wedding, psychedelic punch and bungee jumping.

Mermaid of Moorgate said...

Well if you do go down the marital route, make sure that PigDog is firmly in your sole custody! Of course, as Elby is your true love, I am sure you can come to a convenient arrangement. And if it comes to the worst, we have a spare shopping trolley in our apartment building which we have adopted and called Steve. I would paint him up and give him to Elby for his Grateful Dead collection.

Mermaid of Moorgate said...

Ps... you have to have a DISCO!!!!

lilith said...

Pig goes where Elby goes, Merms, so I have to keep Elby on side if I want to hang onto Pig :-) That is a kind offer of the shopping trolley and I will bear it in mind. We are already arguing over the Disco as Elby thinks we should have one...

Scrobs... said...

Lils, we sent that clip to Mrs S's sister in the US, thinking she'd never see it...

It seems that hose people have been all over TV there, and are famous within days! All apparently, thanks to your announcement!

Come on now, the truth please, did you, or did you not set all this up so that you could talk to the Associated Press about your Michael Jackson tapes????

lilith said...

I'm so sorry Scrobs. I think it was even in the daily doom yesterday. Elby got sent it by an American. I am just so mainstream :-)

Elby The Beserk said...

Pip,

As L notes - Pig is my familiar :-)

Now I must go slave. Irish Tea Bread to bake, and Minestrone for supper. Bones for Pig.

Trubes said...

What wonderful news Lils, Calfy for Chief Bridesmaid and Pig for Bestman, Scrobs and Idle as Ushers and Mermies reading the lesson.
Voila!

If you want your guests to depart early I will sing, remember it's not over 'til the fat lady sings. (not that I'm terribly fat)!

Di.x

P.S.Best wishes to Elby toox

lilith said...

You paint a tempting picture Trubes...although if we are to have Idle I think I'll have to consult him on the wine...

Blue Eyes said...

My view on marriage is that couples should only ever do it for the right reasons. From what you say you are considering it for the right reasons!

Old Holborn said...

I want an invite to the wedding.